We hear the word boundaries often, but what does it really mean?  Boundaries can be either physical or emotional, or both!  Boundaries can range from rigid and unwavering to too porous and too loose.  Healthy boundaries can be found between the two.  Sometimes, we may not even have boundaries. Setting boundaries requires you to show […]

I knew this day would come – the inevitable fall, but it could not have come at a more inopportune time. The seasons changed, and I knew Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) was going to ramp up and push me down the rabbit hole.  That I can handle; as unpredictable in the sense of how bad […]

“The Body Keeps the Score is a book written by Bessel Van der Kolk, M.D., a neuroscientist who influenced our understanding of trauma as the cause of so many mental health issues.  The book provides an understandable explanation of the brain and trauma’s impact.  Van der Kolk discusses how our brain’s adaptive responses to stress […]

Scorched Earth – a military strategy that aims to destroy anything that might be useful to the enemy. I knew I wanted to write about this, even had the post image drawn up for Instagram, but I could not find the words to write the post.  Mercury retrograde and seeing people getting married brought up […]

“You are not weak for leaving a job that is bad for your mental health.”  The picture on the left is in March, before lock-down when my team was a team of three.  This was when the work was balanced, and we had physical interactions, we were doing the damn thing.  The picture in the […]

Therapy was something that I was ultimately against.  I never found a purpose for it, or rather, I never saw a therapist who was committed to my experience. The first time I tried therapy was in 2008.  That therapist was more focused on finding ways for me to relax, and the one thing I walked […]

Did you know that 52% of employees believe they work in a toxic work environment? (White, 2019).  You might be thinking that a toxic work environment is solely a workplace filled with drama, but it is so much more than that, and toxic work environments can be dangerous to your mental health. Thanks to the […]

How to get the most out of your self-care days.

I think this meme shouldn’t just include brands but for the companies we work for. I’ve seen a lot of posts from places that I shop from, participate in today, and acknowledge the black community at the same time but I haven’t seen anything from the company I work for. I’m disappointed and disgusted. I […]

I am a “Mestiza,” half Filipina, and half Black.  The stigma around mental health and illness in both the Asian and Black communities is prevalent.  My mother, born and raised in the Philippines, was confused, and called to a need for prayer upon my diagnosis.  For my father, born and raised in Philadelphia, he thought […]